In relationships both words and actions work together. A few words could change the status of your relationship within a few seconds.
There are certain words and phrases loving couples
should never fail to express to each other for a stronger and happier
relationship. What exactly are those words or phrases that could make a
couple feel crazy in-love?
Coach Todd Reed of YourTango lists five magic phrases that help keep happy couples in love:
1. "We can work it out.":
Notice the word "we" versus "I." Numerous studies have found a link
between marital happiness and how often couples refer to themselves as
"we." That's because seeing yourself as a team makes you more likely to
cope well with the day-to-day problems that are inevitable in any
long-term relationship. What's more, "we" lends a spirit of cooperation
to your discussions -- and that not only results in fewer disagreements,
but also arguments that get resolved more quickly.
2. "I hear what you are saying.": If
I had a penny for each time I've heard a client complain, "My partner
never listens," I'd be a very wealthy man. We humans have a primal need
to feel, both, heard and understood; this is especially true in romantic
relationships. When you don't feel heard and understood, you both
struggle to feel important, valued, or connected to one another. Notice
that this phrase doesn't necessarily mean that you agree with what's
being said. But, it does send a critical message that you're listening
with an open mind. And when that happens, your significant other is far
more likely to share his or her innermost thoughts and feelings with
you, which, naturally, tightens your bond.
3. "I'm crazy about you!!":
Most of us think nice thoughts about our mates all the time, but all
too often, we keep them to ourselves. The truth is, our significant
others need to hear (again and again) how smart, charming, attractive
and wonderful we think they are. In fact, constant reminders from the
person whose opinion they value most (that'd be you!) keep your
partner's self-confidence soaring, spirits high, and his/her connection
to you closer than ever.
4. "Wow, Thank you!": In the
happiest relationships, couples make a point of acknowledging all the
little things -- from his clearing the table or taking the kids to the
park, to her picking up the dry cleaning or making your favorite meal.
But the closest couples add an exclamation to their thanks. Adding a
"Wow!" is like underlining your thanks or putting it in bold type, so
you know for sure that your partner feels loved and appreciated. In
fact, according to behavioral science expert Craig S. Davis, Ph.D., an
exclamation actually registers differently on the cochlea -- the part of
the inner ear that receives and analyzes sound -- so your partner
literally perks up, listens, and better hears what's being said.
5. "Go for it!":
This phrase brings the all-important "rah-rah" factor into your
relationship. Though short and sweet, it speaks volumes whenever you're
sharing thoughts, hopes, and dreams with one another by sending the
message "I've got your back" loud and clear. In fact, a ton of research
reveals that couples who serve as cheerleaders for one another are not
only more optimistic about life and love, but are far more likely to
live happily ever after.
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